Hey Sweets,

This past month, I’ve been battling a serious case of writer’s block. I’d start multiple posts only to lose interest a few sentences in. Frustrated, I tried to figure out why it was happening, but instead of facing it head-on, I found myself binge-watching shows and avoiding the discomfort altogether.

Then, this morning, as I was detangling my hair and listening to Sarah Jakes Roberts, the truth hit me like a ton of bricks: I’ve been half-stepping on my self-healing journey, and it’s showing.

When I first started this journey, my focus was on healing from the aftermath of an abusive relationship. I wanted to understand how I ended up there and how I could break the cycle to protect myself in the future. For over two years, I worked to rebuild my sense of self, focusing on self-love and breaking free from patterns that left me vulnerable.

But here’s the thing: healing from one wound doesn’t mean all wounds are healed. The unresolved pain from childhood trauma, sexual abuse, strained family relationships, and even “church hurt” was still quietly lingering beneath the surface. I repressed it because the pain felt too heavy to confront.

Discovering self-love felt incredible, and I wanted to believe it was enough. But when I sat down to write about self-healing, I realized I hadn’t been completely honest with myself. And if I wasn’t being real with me, how could I be transparent with you? Healing is hard work—it’s messy and painful. It requires us to face what we’re most afraid to feel, all the way through.

Carl Jung said it best: “There is no coming to consciousness without pain.”

I owe myself and anyone looking to me for guidance the full, uncut version of what healing really looks like. I don’t want to offer surface-level advice or pretty quotes that sound good but lack depth. I want my words to come from a place of understanding and truth. That means going back to the drawing board and committing to the work again.

If you’ve found yourself in a similar place, I want you to know that there’s no right or wrong way to heal. It’s natural to want to avoid pain—it’s human instinct. But there is strength in pushing through it.

Sweets, Remember This

Healing isn’t linear, and it doesn’t have to be perfect. What matters is your willingness to face the hard stuff and keep moving forward. It’s okay to pause, reevaluate, and start again. Every small step is progress.

Thanks for reading,
Tru