Hey Sweets,

The other day, I came across a tweet that struck a chord with me: “Don’t be afraid of the solitude that comes with raising your standards.” I retweeted it immediately because, wow, if there’s one thing I’ve learned on this journey, it’s that raising your standards often means walking a road that might leave you traveling alone.

While I thought I understood that, deep down, I hadn’t fully come to terms with it. The tweet stayed on my mind all day.

Here’s what I realized: I thought I had it all figured out. I set boundaries, raised my standards, and stood firm in them. But when I looked closer, I saw that I wasn’t letting go of the relationships that no longer served me. I was still making myself available to people who didn’t truly matter in my life. Every interaction with them left me feeling dull and empty, like they were speaking to a version of me that no longer existed.

The cycle was exhausting. Things seemed fine until I stood my ground or called out their behavior. That’s when I’d hear things like, “Since when…?” or see an “LOL” in response to something I was serious about. It was frustrating, but what made it worse was that I kept expecting them to accept my growth and adjust.

And when they didn’t, I’d still make myself available.

Let me tell you, Sweets—I nipped that in the bud real quick! Shout out to my guides for helping me see what needed to be done. The reason I was holding on to these people wasn’t about them. It was about me. I was afraid of the solitude that would come with letting them go. I was afraid of who I’d be without these connections, or maybe I was reluctant to let go of the old version of myself that they still knew.

But if you’re working hard to heal and grow, you can’t stay tethered to people who refuse to respect your evolution. You can’t keep ties with those who want you to stay in a version of yourself that’s convenient for them.

Letting go is hard, but clinging to these connections doesn’t promote self-love—and, Sweets, we don’t have time for that!

Sweets, Remember This

Don’t be afraid of the solitude that comes with raising your standards. Solitude isn’t a punishment—it’s a gift. It’s a space for you to realign, reflect, and grow into the person you’re becoming.

Release the relationships that don’t respect your growth. Surround yourself with people who celebrate your evolution and match your energy. And most importantly, remind yourself that being alone doesn’t mean you’re lonely—it means you’re making room for what truly serves you.

You’ve got this.

Thanks for reading,
Tru